How owning our regrets makes us a better person

Author Daniel Pink says having regrets is natural and that confronting them can lead to personal growth, better decisions and relationships, and happier lives.

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(photo credit, Nina Subin)

(photo credit, Nina Subin)

Everyone has experienced that gnawing feeling of regret – an awkward interaction, a bad decision, a personal failing. And yet, we are often told to move on, that looking back at our past mistakes or missed opportunities is unhealthy. Author DANIEL PINK disagrees. He argues in his new book, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward, that regret is an essential and unique aspect of being human and paying attention to it can lead to personal growth, better choices and relationships, and happier lives. Pink joins us to talk about the science and psychology of regret, what his World Regret Survey of 17,000 people has revealed, and how to make the best use of life’s disappointments.

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BBC, How to live with your regrets – ” It also highlights which kind of regret bites deepest – and suggests many ways for us to make peace with our own disappointments and mistakes.”

Business Insider, Create a failure résumé to feel more satisfied about your career, says an author who researches regret – “Overall, more people regret being risk-averse and playing it safe compared to those who took a risk, Pink said.”

GQ How to Use Your Regrets for Good – “I like regret circles. You get five or six people together and you go around, everybody talks about their regret”


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