Family estrangement and reconciliation

What drives parents and children apart? What does it take to make amends and rebuild the relationship?

Listen 50:47
Britain's Prince William, second right, Kate, Princess of Wales, right, Prince Harry, left, and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, second left, leave after they paid their respects to Queen Elizabeth II lying in state at Westminster Hall, in London, Wednesday, Sept. 14, 2022. (AP Photo/Emilio Morenatti)

Britain's Prince William, second right, Kate, Princess of Wales, right, Prince Harry, left, and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, second left, leave after they paid their respects to Queen Elizabeth II lying in state at Westminster Hall, in London, Wednesday, Sept. 14, 2022. (AP Photo/Emilio Morenatti)

Psychologist Joshua Coleman was estranged from his young adult daughter after his divorce,  remarriage and the start of a new family.

She said he had let her down and she didn’t feel like a priority in his life. She cut off contact, which Coleman said was the most painful experience of his life. They did reconcile after a few years and now Coleman treats families who are estranged.

Families are complicated. They can be the source of boundless love and support, and the cause of emotional pain and suffering. This week on The Connection, what drives parents and children apart, what it takes to make amends and rebuild the relationship, and how to grieve and move on when reconciliation becomes impossible.

Coleman’s book is Rules of Estrangement: Why Adult Children Cut Ties and How to Heal the Conflict. Also with us is psychologist Lucy Blake, author of No Family is Perfect: A Guide to Embracing the Messy Reality.

WHYY is your source for fact-based, in-depth journalism and information. As a nonprofit organization, we rely on financial support from readers like you. Please give today.

Want a digest of WHYY’s programs, events & stories? Sign up for our weekly newsletter.

Together we can reach 100% of WHYY’s fiscal year goal