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‘Young, Unhoused and Unseen' | Episode 3: Forget Me Knot

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Mecca Robinson said Forget Me Knot is seeing the effects of the city's gun violence epidemic. (Kenny Cooper/WHYY)

This episode is from Young, Unhoused and Unseen, a podcast production from WHYY News and Temple University’s Logan Center for Urban Investigative Reporting.

Find it on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.


Housed in a pair of side-by-side row homes in Philadelphia, Forget Me Knot Children & Youth Services fills a vital gap for young people as a group home and emergency shelter.

Roughly 600 children and young adults live in residential placements across the city of Philadelphia. Some fled abusive households, are unable to secure foster placement, or have been in the system as long as they can remember.

Youth aging out of foster care face a higher risk of homelessness than their peers, according to the National Foster Youth Institute.

For the 30 or so residents that call Forget Me Knot their home, founder Mecca Robinson brings more than 30 years of experience serving children through various social service agencies in Philadelphia and New Jersey. From trips to Wildwood and Broadway to paying out of pocket for haircuts and sneakers, Robinson said staff go above and beyond to provide a loving environment.

“We are that parent that a lot of our children don’t have. They may have lost both parents or they just feel like they don’t have no parents — whether their parents are alive or deceased. We are community-based. We really just want to help,” Robinson said.

Darsen sits on the front steps of the Forget Me Knot House on N. 15th St. in North Philadelphia on Sept. 19, 2023. (Photo by R.J. Franceschini)
Roneisha poses at Forget Me Knot house on Oct. 5, 2023. Roneisha has lived at Forget Me Knot for two months after running away from her foster home. The 16-year-old high school student, originally from North Philly, finds that the staff and other residents make Forget Me Knot feel more like a home than her previous residence. “We get to go places. We get a chance to go outside,” she said. “We’re not locked up in the house in a jail.”/ Photo by Robert Joseph Cruz
Sheena Washington, a caretaker at the Forget Me Knot house, poses for a portrait on Oct. 27, 2023. When asked what makes Forget Me Knot different from other houses that serve the same purpose, she replied, "We're more loving here." (Photo by Julia Kolesar)
Sosa poses at Forget Me Knot house on Oct. 5, 2023. Sosa is 16-years-old and has lived at Forget Me Knot for almost three years. She struggled with school, skipping class, and “being bad,” according to her own reports. She bounced around the foster care system for many years until she was about 14-years-old when she was placed at Forget Me Knot. “I like this place,” Sosa said. “We go on trips. They take us out to like museums and stuff.” /Photo by Robert Joseph Cruz
Trinity poses at Forget Me Knot on Oct. 5, 2023. Trinity is 14-years-old and has lived in foster care from 10 to 13. This is the second time Trinity has been a resident at Forget Me Knot, going back to foster care after a short stay at the group home. “It was weird because I know a lot of my friends were never in foster care,” she said. “I feel like I was being treated differently because I’m not somebody’s child.” (Photo by Robert Joseph Cruz)
Darsen poses at Forget Me Knot on Oct. 5, 2023. Darsen is an 18-year-old at Excel North High School who will soon graduate from Excel Academy North. He has been with Forget Me Knot for almost two years and hopes to attend either a trade school for carpentry or an HBCU. “I was in three [foster homes], " he said. “The first two I was there for a year and some change and then the last one I was like six-seven months.” (Photo by Robert Joseph Cruz)
Forget Me Knot House is located on the corner of Cecil B. Moore and 15th St. in Philadelphia. (Photo by R.J. Franceschini)
A full bulletin board and resident grievance box hangs in the dining room of the Forget Me Knot house on Oct. 27, 2023. (Photo by Julia Kolesar)
A mural is painted on the wall in the dining room at the Forget Me Knot house on Oct. 27, 2023. (Photo by Julia Kolesar)
A resident's bedroom at the Forget Me Knot house is decorated on Oct. 27, 2023. The house tries to give everyone their own rooms if possible, prioritizing the older residents. If two residents have to room together for lack of space, Forget Me Knot will move roommates into separate rooms if one vacates. (Photo by Julia Kolesar)
The kitchen and pantry are full at the Forget Me Knot house on Oct. 27, 2023. The kitchen stays busy most of the day, with the first meal of three being served at 5:30 a.m. and the last meal finishing at 7:30 p.m. (Photo by Julia Kolesar)
Sheena Washington poses in the dining room of the Forget Me Knot house on Oct. 27, 2023. (Photo by Julia Kolesar)

With funding hard to come by, Forget Me Knot faces an uphill battle. Love can only mend so much. Moreover, the devastating impact of gun violence and the opioid crisis has deeply traumatized numerous young individuals caught in the system, leaving profound and lasting scars.

Robinson said young people have the solution to their problems. People must first listen. When Robinson walks into spaces with similar organizations to discuss issues facing the residential placement and foster care system, she said she brings her children.

“I come with the children because I can’t tell you all what they need. They can tell you what they need or how it should go. And we as the adults just say, ‘You know what? That makes sense. Let’s try to figure this out.’ This is why so much crime and gun violence is going on in this age population, because nobody’s really listening,” Robinson said.

Alexis Pope, 18, ended up in foster care because both of her parents are deceased. She bounced around to more than 20 foster homes, but eventually found comfort and companionship at Forget Me Knot.

“Group homes and shelters are way more therapeutic because you can talk to other kids. We’re all going through the same thing. We have the end goal to one day have our own family and never to put our kids through this. We all understand how hard our birthdays are. So we all come together and make sure each and everybody’s parties are the best it could possibly be. The first day of school — every little accomplishment we make really big because we all understand,” Pope said.

Alexis Pope, 18, has been in more than 20 foster homes growing up. Now, she’s on her way to college. (Kenny Cooper/WHYY)

Pope will be leaving Forget Me Knot soon to a bright future. She recently graduated high school with a 3.9 GPA and will attend college in the spring.

“There is no face to foster care. People always… underplay my situation because of the way I carry myself. They don’t ever think that if I’m having a bad day, life can’t be too hard because I still, the way I dress or my hair is always done. I go through a lot, and then when people find out my story, they be like ‘dang, you carry yourself so good,’ but how am I supposed to carry myself? Am I supposed to be walking around crying all day — with my head down. There’s no face to it,” Pope said.

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