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Caring about each other

November 19, 2012 — On Thanksgiving, many families talk about what they’re grateful for. Taken a step further, what if we turned the conversation toward what we do with that gratitude and how the simple act of truly caring for others can change our lives and the world around us? That simple act can help others feel seen, welcomed, and valued and add to our sense of well-being — and ultimately increase our ability to care.

Dr. Dan Gottlieb talks with Stephen Post about the art of caring — considering and understanding the needs of others and ourselves.

Stephen Post, Ph.D., is the best-selling author of The Hidden Gifts of Helping (2011) as listed by the Wall Street Journal. He speaks widely on themes of benevolent love and compassionate care at the interface of science, health, spirituality, and philanthropy. His work has been featured in periodicals such as Parade Magazine and O: The Oprah Magazine, and on such media venues as The Daily Show, 20/20 and Nightline.

(During this program, Dan mentions that listeners can show their support for Second Baptist Church of Atlantic City and their efforts to assist victims of the recent hurricane. To do so, contact The Reverend Collins Days at (609) 348-3580. )

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  • Manar Darwish

    Dear Dr. Gottlieb, Great conversation as always. To affirm what you and your guest are saying, yes every major tradition has prayers to start the day on the right foot and reminds oneself to be grateful. Practicing Muslims are taught to Thank God when they first open their eyes, for returing their sould to them, and not keeping it during sleep. Asking God’s forgivenenss for any known or unknown disgression is supposed to be by way of Thanksgiving, as is shown by a tradition after the Prophet, who when asked why he still asks God for Forgivness, when he had already been promised that he is forgiven, he answered that he is doing it to show Gratitude. One of the Ninety Names of God is al Shakour,

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    Allāh – (الله)

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    Alhamdulillah or (الحمد لله) is an Arabic phrase meaning “Praise to God”. It is used by Arabic-speakers of all religions, but more frequently by Muslims due to the centrality of this specific phrase within the texts of the Qur’an and the words of the Islamic prophet Muhammad. It is similar to the Hebrew word Hallelujah הַלְלוּיָהּ (‘God be praised’).

    The meaning and in-depth explanation of ‘Alhamdulillah’ have been the subject of much exegesis.

    The phrase has three basic parts:
    Al – The definite article, “the.”
    Ḥamdu – Meaning the “feeling of gratitude”, as opposed to Shukr, “words of gratitude.”
    Li-l-lāh – preposition + noun Allah. Li- is a preposition meaning “for,” “belonging to,” etc.

    Note: (1) The word “Allah” is the fusion of the article al (the) and the word ilah (a god, deity). Very much like in English, “The” article is used here to single out the noun as being the only one of its kind, “The god” (the one and only) or “God” with a capital G (the concept of capital letters does not exist in Arabic). Therefore, “Allah” is the Arabic word for “God”. (2) “ilāh” is the Arabic cognate of the ancient Semitic name for God, El

    It also means that anything in existence to which is ascribed praise, thanks, glorification, or gratitude, is only able to achieve it due to God’s infinite mercy and grace.

    Alhamdulillah: in theory, it is to be said with a profound sense of love, adoration, and awe of the power, glory, and mercy of God. In practice, however, its use is so widespread in Arabic-speaking countries that it might better be understood as meaning “thankfully,” “thank goodness,” or “thank God” as used in American English. Which is to say that not all Arabic speakers who use the phrase are consciously praising God when they say it.

    It not only praises God in general for the above-mentioned qualities, but also seeks to praise Him specifically for those attributes of God’s names in Islam, which God did necessarily have as omnipotent (such as all-seeing, all-hearing), but rather chose to have out of His mercy (the Loving (Al-Wadud), the Beneficent (Ar-Rahman)) and showering Grace upon His servants.

    Some of the 99 Names of God in Islam, referred to by this idea are:
    Al-Wadud (the Loving)
    Ar-Rahman (The Beneficent)
    Ar-Raheem (The Merciful)
    Al-Kareem (The Generous)
    Al Ghafur (The Forgiving)
    As-Salaam (The Peace)

    The phrase is first found in the second verse of the first sura of the Qur’an (Al-Fatiha). So frequently do Muslims and Arabic-speaking Jews and Christians invoke this phrase that the quadriliteral verb Hamdala حمدل, “to say al-Hamdu li-‘llah” was coined, and the derived noun Hamdalah حمدلة is used as a name for this phrase.

    In Islam, Alhamdulillah is used in the following situations:
    After sneezing. Alhamdulillah Thank God. Waking up. Alhamdulillah-hillathee ah-yana ba’da ma ama tana wa ilayhi nushoor. Many thanks to God Who has given us life after having given us death (sleep) and that our final return (on the Day of Qiyaamah End of the world) is to God. Response to “How are you?” Keifa haluka, Wech rak?, Keifik? or Keifilhal? Alhamdu lillahi Thank God, I am fine. In general, every time a Muslim desires to praise God, they say Alhamdulillah (الحمد لله).
    The triconsonantal root Ḥ-M-D (ح م د), meaning “praise,” can also be found in the names Muhammad, Mahmud, and Ahmad.
    Alhamdulillah – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
    Thank you and Happy Thanksgiving. I look foward to more of your programs. I am always grateful and learn so much from what you discuss.

  • Jim Woods, Sr.

    I thoroughly enjoyed today’s presentation. In short, Dr. Gottlieb’s feelings and sensitivity are so tenderly transmitted in such a sincere and caring manner. I am an 80 year old guy still learning understanding and compassion. I am indebted to Dr. Gottlieb.

  • m zarrilli

    what is the address of the atlantic city church mentioned in the interview? they need food. people would like to help.

  • Admin

    m zarrilli –

    Contact The Reverend Collins Days at (609) 348-3580.

  • Gretchen

    thanks for the show, Dan, perfect timing. I was getting real tired of all the radio conversation re: cooking Thanksgiving dinner.
    I had wanted to find a contact in AC to go volunteer post Sandy. You put the info out there. Good realistic description of the low-income people that now need some assist. Appreciate it.

  • Kate Galer

    Hi all – I called the Second Baptist and they need non-perishable food items and new clothes. They also need shopping carts (the kind people use to go to and from the store).

    I am taking a trip down there on Friday morning with items donated from my neighbors and kid’s schools. If you have anything you want me to take, message back on here. I live in Ardmore and you can drop off or I can pick up if it is a reasonable distance. I will be taking a minvan or a pick up truck – depending on quantity of stuff and weather. Thanks.

  • kate

    Hi- just wanted you to know I got a minivan full of food and clothes donations from my neighborhood and a very kind couple in Media and drove it down to AC to Rev. Days’ church. Thank you for the opportunity to help. Kate Galer

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